Achilles and Hector are both warriors, leaders and men of great stature but it’s about there that the similarities end. Achilles is driven by anger and attitude, is violent and unforgiving of a person’s flaws and more centered on warfare than leading peacefully. Achilles “rage” is presented as the catalyst to the Acheaen’s destruction during the Trojan war.
Hector is the opposite side of the same mold. Quite literally his name was interpreted as “he who holds together.” He has a strong sense of family and leadership over the people of Troy, and is focused on keeping his people protected and fruitful rather than creating a society of warriors. However, he still is able to hold his own and be a great warrior when the time calls for it. He’s able to shoulder the responsibility of war and balance it well with the responsibilties of leading his people and his family.
King Priam’s grief over the death of Hector is what snaps Achilles out of his mood. Priam brings his grief to Achilles and asks for Hector’s body for a proper bural ceremony. This display of open weakness over the loss of a loved one brings Achilles to a sense of empathy. This brings a transformation for Achilles from a rage filled war machine to an actual human being with empathetic feelings.
Hector shows that Familial code and Warrior code are not mutually exclusive. He is able to balance each responsibilty to a great degree of success. Achilles shows what it’s like to focus too much on one (warrior) and get lost in it and lose your sense of humanity.